Happy Birthday

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Go shawty, it’s your birthday! Happy Birthday!

Alright y’all, it’s officially my 23rd birthday! So this post is definitely about to be short, sweet and to the point. Surprisingly I’m excited for my birthday to finally be here. Like, I am actually 23 years old. I dreaded the thought of getting older as time goes on but I might as well enjoy this life to the fullest.

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 Let me do a little reflection on this new age I’m about to get acquainted with. Alright, so boom I’m 23 which puts me two years until I’m 25. If that puts me two years to 25, then that’s middle 20’s. Now, if this is considered mid 20’s, then that’s only 5 years from being 30. LORD! This is the reason I avoid thinking about age. But in all seriousness, time literally does not wait for anyone. I try to catch the time train at each stop so I won’t miss any amazing moments in life. I am truly thankful that I’ve been blessed to see this day let alone.

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So many people I know aren’t here to even experience their next birthday but yet I have the opportunity to celebrate mine. This is an exciting time for me honestly. I’m looking forward to my “Jordan” year being the best time of my life.

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Another folk saying from my Aunt Janet: It takes 21 days to begin or break a habit.

This birthday, I’m doing things a little different. I’m reclaiming the blessings that were meant for me, time, and health. I’ll be building healthy habits and relationships with “boss” minded individuals. With a cleared mind and spirit, I have so much to offer you guys! Thank you to each person that has text, messaged, or commented “Happy Birthday” to me. I love love love seeing notifications pop up for things like this and it just fills my heart with joy! I love you guys too from the bottom of my heart.

Until next time! I’m going to Harlem Shake on off of this and have a little dance party in my own zone. See ya later!

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Happy New Year

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Happy New Year!

What a time to experience year after year with old and new people?!

Hi my loves! I believe it is fair to say long time no see. I’ve missed you all tremendously as I took a quick hiatus to gather my thoughts headed into the new year. It’s a little overwhelming for me right now simply because I have lived this far to even write this post for you all as we “read”. It’s a mixture of emotions but I thank God to see this day come to pass.

Are you all experiencing the same emotions?

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I’m going to be extremely transparent with you all as a warning.

2017 has treated me like the child that stays in the corner. No matter what I said or did, I was always put into timeout. Now, I constantly asked “why is this happening to me?” I couldn’t seem to win an ounce of goodness. But, with all that was going on, I did something terrible. I began putting myself in self destruction mode. Y’all I LOST myself. I was literally a ticking time bomb. Let me explain…

  • Weight gain
  • Low self-esteem
  • Lack of motivation
  • Workaholic (for the wrong reasons)
  • Lack of priorities
  • Stressed out
  • Lack of prayer life
  • Emotional
  • BILLS

AND THE LIST GOES ON…

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First thought, many people would respond “That’s so hard to believe.” Often times when I’m in action, you will always catch me red in the cheeks and smiling a smile that could reach my ears. But, I was harboring pain and junk…yea, that’s what we’ll call it JUNK. That’s what was inside me head to toe. I was battling an invisible fight that I seemed to allow to go unnoticed for a while. Now, for anyone that has encountered me, don’t mistaken that smile to be a mask over my emotions. The smile was genuine, the happiness was pure and the love was organic.

As you read, you may say “this doesn’t sound like a Happy New Year.” Just hang in there with me

Granted, the things I’ve listed are all normal I guess for this whole adulting thing I’m trying to understand. But, it wasn’t what I planned out for my life. Keep an eye out for how many times I make note about “my plan for my life.” Ok, so I wasn’t supposed to gain weight and have bills up to my neck. By 23 I am supposed to have had a baby, a 3,000 square foot house and debt free. I really didn’t care about timing either. My hubby would try to talk reality and sense into me but boy was I stuck in my own way. He wasn’t the only person to try to knock me upside my head either.

REALITY CHECK: God didn’t have my plan written in his plan for my life.

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Consequently, I stuck by this frame of mind for a while because I was determined to prove that it is possible to get these things in life.  I believed I deserved this, that, and the third in life without having to do the leg work. I slacked on my prayer time but found myself seeking God when situations arose. In this timeline, I became the typical Christian. I just knew my life would get by if I whispered a quick prayer saying “Lord please help me get out of this and I repent for everything I’ve done. I promise I won’t do it again,” HONEY the next day I did exactly what I just prayed about. You would think with having to say this prayer so much something would change…Nah. I was exhausted and still carried the world on my shoulders to get what I wanted.

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A wise woman in my life revealed to me that I wanted those desirable things too much. The drive I had to make my life feel in order was higher than God. I then realized that I immediately woke up thinking about how to get the house in an impossible time frame, having my life altogether by my birthday and things would hit a 360 in the nick of time.

Take into consideration the words I am saying. Please don’t confuse any of this as you can’t be blessed with the desires of your heart. Things happen in decency and in order. Your life sequence should not play out like scattered scrabble letters.

P.S. Thanks for the continuous lessons Aunt Janet

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Now, lets fast forward to now…I’m sitting here in front of a blazing fireplace with family and peace. Although I am nowhere near what I want, I realized that maybe my plan was stuck inside of a box and I didn’t leave any room for more growth. I mean, who was going to tell Jorelle what to do because I’m grown. HA! Yea right.

See that mindset I carried hindered me in some ways and helped me in other ways. The main problem was the lack of balance.

As I conclude this post, I want to say I wish you all a Happy New Year! I believe there will be some extreme blessings and changes that will happen for many. It took me a while to understand the true meaning of a lesson learned. My mind stayed crowded with anger because I simply didn’t get what I wanted. BUT, lets say this was an opportunity for me to be inspiration to you. Pick up that pen and paper and get to work. It’s people out there looking for an escape out just like you.

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2018 is about to be the best year of my life! The number 7 signifies the number of completion with 8 signifying new beginnings. I wish you all nothing but success and blessings untold. I learned one thing that stuck with me too by Che Haughton: FEAR IS EXPENSIVE. Do not allow the fear that settled in 2017 accompany you in 2018. Ask yourself if it’s really worth it to bring baggage from the past just because you want closure or you still enjoy toying with the idea. You either want it all or not at all. Stop serving two masters as we enter this new year.

Be DECISIVE. Remain POSITIVE. Be PRODUCTIVE.

#NOFEARALL2018

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Talent Exposed

Good morning, good morning and good morning! How have you guys been?! I’m super excited for what I have to share with you all today. I’m giving y’all a little Talent Exposed for the top of your morning. Sit back and enjoy!

Let me do the honors in introducing Tishara Grayson across your screen. Let me give you a little backstory to Tishara.

First, I met her my senior year of high school at I C Norcom (my first year there). We didn’t talk much but I thought “ok I like her vibe” from speculation. I realized she wasn’t your average female. Smart, talented and a go getter. Even more, I saw her in action as a drum major! Y’all, this girl could move.

Second,  I reference her being a drum major and her personality from my standpoint for a specific reason. You have to be on your “A” when you’re in school, juggling band in addition to maintaining a social life. She wasn’t your average girl. Furthermore, I can say after we graduated, that was when a “boss” chick was able to spread her wings and fly.

Also, Tishara graduated from Temple University and is now the head of a freelance small business consulting firm. She’s making “money moves.” So, she can help you with a wide range of things. Don’t take my word for it and take advantage of her services here. 👇🏽 Check it out:

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Everyone, I want to be the first to say the 757 has talent like no other. As long as we support one another the best way possible, we can make a mark in the industry. Tishara along with many other young adults WILL achieve her dreams because she most importantly believes in herself.

If you are starting a business, opening a store or if you need a simple strategist to help your company, Tishara is the one for you. Don’t hesitate to reach out to her. 

Tishara is a woman on a mission. You better jump on the wagon now before it’s too late!

As always, thank you all for the support and sticking with me. It does not go unnoticed. Make sure you go support one another and let’s build each other up to become millionaires. No dream is too big or too far. Until next time.

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Motivational Sprinkle

Happy Thursday! Today I am switching things up a bit. I’m doing a little “Motivational Sprinkle” to add some happiness to your day. We are going dive in uncut and unfiltered.

I’m going to be very honest with you all. I have been having a rough week balancing my blog, life, and coming up with new fresh ideas.

One thing I don’t allow in my life is depression or discouragement anymore. BUT, I found myself battling with it.

Why?

I was stressed the heck out. I’m usually the person hooping and hollering about great things happening for others except myself. I do believe good things will happen for me, it was simply harder for me accept.

Recently, I hit FACE FLAT. I had such a hard reality check in life I had to go back to the drawing board. Y’all, I was literally burnt out.

Now, let me be transparent for a second.

I struggled with depression severely. Now please do not think I claimed that over my life because I did not. Consequently, I had life facing me head on. As a result, I succumbed to my own obstacles instead of being reminded how strong I really am. Rule number one about me, I will never lose.

Next, let’s move on to you. MY AUDIENCE. I had this topic on my heart so much for a specific reason. I have observed so many young people struggle terribly with finances, emotional and spiritual support and LIFE. Let us dissect the root of these things.

Where does most of our pain come from?

  • Anger: a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.

It doesn’t have to be rage with screaming and shouting, but our pain definitely stems from it.

How are our emotions defined?

  • Emotion: a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with
  • instinctive or intuitive feeling as distinguished from reasoning or knowledge.

The Limbic System of the brain is our source for emotions. It is made up of several structures which are all located in the cerebral cortex.

So why are so many young children and young adults prone to fighting depression? From my listening, I gathered many have so many “things” they want to accomplish, but the lack in their life no matter what it is plays a huge role.

What I am saying is, they try to juggle this, that, and the third it begins to overwhelm them. Personally, I was juggling work, life at home, missing family, trying to start my blog and whatever else was thrown at me. But some people have another life at home where the household may not be stable or a stability but no means of providing for themselves. I notice young adults try to avoid asking for help until they are posing a risk to themselves. Don’t have too much PRIDE.

Now, I know prayer works because I’m evidence of the result. A lot of things that happened were simply a trick of the enemy. Nothing new. Recently at church, we had a sermon speaking on how our past is always reminding us. Whatever “fear” or “regret” you have from your past, it tends to creep back up and say “REMEMBER.”

I do believe in the times where young children and adults are pushing the hardest, those emotions brew.

I want to be a source of motivation for all but most importantly for people my age. Realizing where my strength lied and how hard I needed to fight for my dreams was evident. Each blockade began falling and I was able to chisel portions off of my body that kept me bound.

Please do not allow yourself to fall flat on your face and remain bound. Take a step back and look at things in a different perspective. Whether you regret a decision from the past or you don’t have the ability to say no, YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE.

What will it take for you to feel better? Will it be anonymously chatting or having a therapy session? It is perfectly fine seeing a therapist FYI. If you are in need of anything be it a prayer or encouraging words, I want to extend my comments section for questions and comments. Also, submit an inquiry on my form to contact anonymously too. 

Together we stand and together we conquer. Those dreams aren’t going to be achieved by themselves! 

Go get ’em! I hope a little motivational sprinkle over your day helped. 

Bucket List Friday Fun Abroad

Bucket List Friday Fun Abroad is here already! I am so excited to share my next destination. If you are looking for romance, make sure you read this one!

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Now, if you have guessed it by my very disguised picture then let me tell you where we are going.

Paris!

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So, when it comes to Paris, everything about it shouts Fashion, Food, and ROMANCE. 😍 The language itself is a beauty to appreciate. Oh and you ALL know my passion for food! Paris has so much to offer with such a well versed community.

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Instead of me GAWKING over how amazing Paris is, let me dive into some more awesome details to enlighten your day.

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  • The Eiffel Tower was actually supposed to be a temporary monument for only 20 years but it’s still standing! It was built for the 1889 World Fair
  • Now, I’m going to have to dig deeper for this one, but apparently Paris has only ONE stop sign. I don’t believe that would work too well where I am.
  • There are at least 3 replicas of the Statue of Liberty in Paris
  • Paris is considered the worlds fashion capital. Chanel, Louis Vuitton, Dior and Lacroix, Hermes, and Saint Laurent are all headquartered in Paris.
  • There are three main fashion types which are: haute couture, prêt-à-porter (as known as “ready-to-wear”) and lingerie
  • Paris is also home to the largest textile industry. French designer Pierre Cardin, to name molded a career with a more futuristic feature for tomorrow’s fashion.
  • In 1966, Pierrce created Space Age which became a Mod Fashion in that period.

 

Along with the fashion, and local facts, Paris has a few interesting details with food. One of them being the BAGUETTE. Check out these dishes!

 

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Thank you for sticking with me and reading Bucket List Friday Fun Abroad!