Life Gets Hard

Life Gets Hard and that isn’t an unusual statement for anyone. We as humans all experience a hardship at some point in time. Most times it’s not what we want, but we accept it for what it is and keep moving forward. Life Gets Hard truly isn’t an understatement.

This is one of those short posts again…So what do you do when things seem to tense up and get rough? Do you flip out, pray, talk to somebody or hold it in? Or do you get emotional to the point you don’t know what to do? People have so many reactions to situations it’s pretty hard to pinpoint one universal response. The reason I ask is because it seems as if millennials have a hard time with the painful word…LIFE.

Do you see how many words made up “LIFE”?

I can understand my own question about reactions. Imagine experiencing several of these emotions and they fail at one point or another. You sit back and think Life Gets Hard. Like it really does.

The whole purpose of this post is to simply say, no matter how many lemons are thrown at you, don’t try to make lemonade. Roll the lemon to make sure it isn’t too hard. Afterwards cut it open, then juice it.

Life is a process and you have to approach it delicately. If you grab that lemon and you can barely cut through it, well, I reckon you’ll struggle making some good homemade lemonade. But, if you take time to knead it to get the juices flowing, you just might have a rewarding pitcher of lemonade. Don’t try to steer life in the direction you see fit. It is not always set up for you to be in charge. Understand the process of it and let things happen in rightful order. As long as you trust the process, you will learn to knead through the hard times to have the opportunity to see the reward. It’ll all work out in due time.

When Life Gets Hard, relax. The chips will fall as they may.

FarmHer

I’m learning how to be a FarmHer y’all!

Farm, Farming, Farmers, Organic

Yea, you’ve read that right. I’m learning about farming. Before I get you all gung-ho to believe I’m all that with it…I’m not.

The reason I titled this post FarmHer was for a very specific reason. I love how the topics I write about come to me in all shapes and forms. In this case, it came from a goat.

Today was dedicated to fixing up the farm in preparation for upcoming events. While I was outside moving hay around with everyone, grabbing tools I had no idea the name of and doing as I was told, I glanced over to the goat pin.

Man, I know y’all thinking, really Relle, a GOAT.

You’ll be amazed at what you learn studying animals even if it’s for 5 minutes. Let me get on with the experience.

Well, the goats were huddled together and one was apart from the group. We’ll call that one Goat B. The goats were gathered around a tree to be exact. Well, Goat B, like the one pictured above was hanging off to the side. As the other goats were munching,  Goat B looks over and thinks “I want part of that too.” Following that thought process, Goat B goes and butts all of the other goats out of the way to get ALL of “good food.” They had already been fed.

This is where it hit me

That’s us as humans. A GOAT. It’s honestly sad too. Many times we are apart from the crowd but when we see people flock to one place we demand to be front and center. When you see a street performer…you may not mind anything UNTIL you hear screaming and cheering. What do you do next? Turn back to find out what was going on. That goat wasn’t worried about a thing in the world, but turned around to see the others eating and he/she wasn’t getting any of the share. So Goat B does what? Demands to be front and center and gets in on the fun.

People want a share of TOO MUCH! You want this, this, this AND this, oh and that over there, but WHY?

Can anyone point me into the right direction to find this answer?!

It’s GREED. Yep, you’re greedy whether you know it or not. Don’t deem me as the wicked person calling everyone out. No, for starters we are all greedy in some shape or form. Secondly, if you didn’t know, maybe you can reevaluate yourself. That goat had its share of food, care free, then butts the others to get whatever it is they have.

DON’T BE A GOAT

Come back tomorrow for even more! ☺️

Motivational Nugget

Here’s a little Motivational Nugget for you all today. Literally the shortest post ever too.

Allow 2018 to be the year you deny any hindrances in your life and refuse distractions.  What that means is one, if you know someone or something is hindering you, let it go. Secondly, we all get distracted in some ways. You can read a book and become distracted by the television. Put your guard up and refuse to allow distractions in your life.

It’s nothing worse than obvious obstacles clouding your space and time resulting in your craft being on hold.

Yesterday, I asked a few questions to ask yourself and to answer them truthfully. It can be a hard pill to swallow when you really learn your answer. Trust me I know. But, what is beautiful is that, that one little step can be your moment of breakthrough.

Sometimes we don’t recognize how many layers of burdens, dead weight and stress is upon us. Some people carry it forever. I’m not in this game to carry that around forever. If you know that it is weighing you down, how can you eliminate it? Allow yourself to be alleviated from the pain of it all. It’s nothing like a creative mind forever trapped.

That’s a set up for a disaster. People can be ticking time bombs when healing hasn’t taken place spiritually and mentally.

As a motivational nugget, here is my simple advice. Take some time away. Whether you have a little serene hideaway or the basement to your own home, get away for a bit. You are not wrong for needing space. IT IS OK. While you are in that space, focus and let everything out. If you like to have your one on one talk with God, gone and talk your head off. You are doing this for YOU. Because once YOU heals, then you will see things with a better eye and your judgement will be clearer.

Let me know how that works for you.

Thats my quick motivational nugget for you. Come back tomorrow for more! 😘

Work Hard Play Hard

Work Hard Play Hard

It’s easy to say those four words, but is it easy to do? No, not really. I promise I’m tired of life hitting me. I mean if I could talk to life itself I would say

I’m so serious y’all. In my mind, I’m like “bro calm down” because it has a habit of creeping up and putting me on my arse. No lie.

TODAY WASN’T MY DAY!

I’m not saying it like it was a disaster, but my frustration levels and worrying crept up pretty high. There were a million and one thoughts flooding my mind and anxiety was knocking at my door.

NOT TODAY SATAN

Why in the world did I even title this post “Work Hard Play Hard?” Um, because one, it was the first main thought that came to mind. Two, because this is what YOU need to learn to do.

I can sit and tell you all about me and what I did wrong blah blah blah. But, what I haven’t done is tell you what you might have done that wasn’t so savory. Catch me now. I’m not saying you did anything wrong. But, how are you working hard in order to play hard? Get this…

I’m in Priiincesss’s Consistency Group

If you want to join, click here

Like I was saying, I’m in this consistency group and it’s so many talented individuals in there. Everyone has their own personal goal and a different drive. The thing in common is we all want one thing. To be the greatest we can be.

When I first started blogging…

LOL 😂

I definitely did not remain consistent with my art. The new focus along with being consistent is being disciplined. Those two things are like the most important to have if you want to be great. I bring this up because not too long ago, I couldn’t answer the question I just asked you all.

And being consistent and disciplined doesn’t even have to be about blogging. If you are consistent and disciplined at a burger joint you’re working at…well, most chances are you’ll reap the benefits and get promoted.

So, again, what are you doing to work hard play hard?

Come up with an approach

How are you going to tackle your schedule?

My weakness is time management. That will be tackled with better organization

How will you combat lack of time management ?

Since I have an agenda now, I’ll be using that to schedule everything I should be doing. It will become my daily routine

What do you feel is holding you back?

I recognize the more cluttered I am in my life, the more I lack discipline and consistency. By the way, you know I heard a saying how creative minds are the messiest people. Why can’t creative minds be some of the neatest people? I find that to be true. Kind of.

As a creative, there are so many things that I want to do and COULD do if I remained consistent and disciplined. Does it seem like you’re doing a few things wrong like me? Does this sound like you? Yes? Ok great! Lets try this. I answered a few of these questions, but it’s really for you to answer yourself. Be raw with the response and let go of the baggage. (Recommended to me by the way)

  1. Create a routine
  2. State affirmations to yourself (optional)
  3. Get an organizer!
  4. Schedule what you need to do
  5. FOLLOW THAT SCHEDULE!
  6. Declutter your space
  7. FOCUS
  8. Study your craft
  9. Practice makes perfect
  10. Repeat ALL DAY EVERYDAY

I’ve challenged myself with a 21 Day Challenge of Blogging and Fasting and now I’ll add this one. I’ll do it with you and we can hold each other accountable. That’s my piece. It’s late so goodbye and I’m out ✌🏽

Day 5

It’s Day 5!

I had to add a little humor to this post. Although I’m very excited to continue this challenge, it is also very tiring and draining. I’m still in the beginning stages but yet time is flying I tell you.

This will be another short, sweet and to the point segment.

I want to cover a delicate topic. How good is your prayer life? I mean, the type of prayer you are consistent with. Most people struggle with this throughout their life. The reason I know this is because I too struggle. There was a point in time where I did have a steady moment with God. I was much younger with a lot more faith. After life hit me a few times, I can admit, my faith dwindled a bit. Discouragement was my drug.

So, if I was addicted to being discouraged, do you think I really wanted to pray? I mean, those were some of the hardest times.

I’m sure many people struggle with praying during their hardest moments in life. We ARE human you know.

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The reason I’m covering this though is because I still feel like this is a tender spot for me. It feels good to accomplish even a few days of fasting, but I think I will feel even better once my CONSISTENT prayer life kicks in.

As I’ve talked about fasting and how the focus should not be on food, I saw a post on Instagram that was on point. It was right in line with my thoughts on having a proper mindset when moving forward. Read it here 👇🏽

With consistent praying and a clear mind, you become healthier with your relationship with God mentally and spiritually.

Let’s define prayer really quick with two definitions before I conclude.

Definition 1

Prayer
prer/Submit
noun
noun: prayer; plural noun: prayers
a solemn request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God or an object of worship.
“I’ll say a prayer for him”
synonyms: invocation, intercession, devotion; archaicorison
“the priest’s murmured prayers”
a religious service, especially a regular one, at which people gather in order to pray together.
“500 people were detained as they attended Friday prayers”
an earnest hope or wish.
“it is our prayer that the current progress on human rights will be sustained”

Definition 2

transitive verb
1 : entreat, implore —often used as a function word in introducing a question, request, or plea pray be careful
2 : to get or bring by praying
intransitive verb
1 : to make a request in a humble manner
2 : to address God or a god with adoration, confession, supplication, or thanksgiving

Prayer isn’t something you just do on your own time and when you’re going through. You should pray as often as you can. There is too much to not be thankful for that it’s literally a reason a million reasons to pray. Maybe I over exaggerated that number but you get the gist of it. Welp, I have another goal alongside this challenge I need to complete. I ACCEPT ANOTHER CHALLENGE

I hope you’ve been encouraged! Be blessed, stay peaceful and know the battle is not yours, it’s the Lord’s. You’ve got this! Day 5, you’ve been good to me.

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