Preparation Time

It’s preparation time…

NO MORE BURGERS FOR 21 DAYS 😭

If  you had the chance to read my Final Countdown post, then here is the finale of counting down. It’s officially preparation time for the 21 day challenge. I said I challenged myself 21 days of blogging and therefore I have to keep my word.

And in all actuality, I know this task is possible, BUT I am really going through the “motions” of emotions with the goal I’ve set for myself. With the preparation of this fast and challenge, I am being forced to relinquish all control to bring my flesh into submission. Inside, I feel like scattered puzzle pieces. If you picture this figuratively, I’m running throughout the puzzle pieces and trying to pile them wherever they can fit. I’m dreading the unknown and feel safer trying to put the “pieces” of my life back together again where “I” see fit. Now, if you read a few posts back, you will understand the quotations around I. You can read it here.

See, what I’m learning when it comes to challenging yourself is that you MUST have a mindset change. Over time, I’ve built the habit of finding reasons to remain complacent within my own comfortable shell of disfunction. If you remember my “go to” from my Final Countdown post about food, then you will understand how comfortable I got destroying myself. This is not a hyperbolic statement either. So, what exactly is it that I am preparing for?

A LIFESTYLE CHANGE

Most importantly to add with this lifestyle change is the fact that I won’t be returning to the old way of comfort. But wait! I didn’t even tell you all the exact fast I’m doing…

Well, I will be completing the Daniel’s fast. I contemplated over and over what to do, but throughout conversation I received my little confirmation. This isn’t my favorite fast to do. After the little shopping I did yesterday to finalize my preparation, I actually felt a bit of joy overcome me. Maybe it’s because I know the change that will be happening or simply what is to come.

My settings are being restored and I’m being rewired. My determination has now replaced my contemplation meaning I am seizing all opportunities. No longer will I hold myself back from being healthier, reading and studying more and simply having a clustered mind of chaos. I am determined to walk through every opened door that was meant for me. I am not talking about doors I tried to force open additionally.

6:00 A.M. my life is turning around. It’s preparation time for what I will be consuming, thinking about and priorities. Also, it’s much easier said than done if you haven’t tried it. I’m honestly very excited to see the mentality and wisdom I gain but more importantly a steady relationship with God.

If you want to know more about the Daniel Fast, you can check out this site here. It breaks down the list of foods you can and cannot eat as well.

Pray for me as I pray for you! Always remember to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path.” Proverbs 3:5-6

Final Countdown

Final Countdown! First, let me tell you all where my mind is with this “countdown” before I go any further…I’m legit experiencing excitement and skepticism at the same time.

Alright now. Good afternoon beautiful people! I had to get my thoughts off my chest before I greeted y’all. Next, with your permission, I’m going to reveal this countdown I’ve challenged myself with.

Final Countdown

21 Days of Blogging

You read that right. 21 complete days of blogging and I’m not going to be slacking either. You may ask what brought this on?

If your answer is YES, it is because of church. No, it’s not something forced either. My church Abundant Life Forsyth is doing a corporate fast for 21 days.

 

I’ve honestly dreaded fasts for I don’t know how long. Each time I felt I needed to fast for personal reasons or a recommendation by someone I sprinted the opposite direction. Truthfully, I never felt as if I was strong enough to complete something so meaningful. I can admit, I ran away from fasting because I wouldn’t be in control of whatever I fasted from. You know, some people love food, television, music or whatever hobby because it’s something they can control. It doesn’t even have to be a bad habit but too much of it is what creates the “bad.”

Let’s dissect this a bit

What is fasting? 

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fast/Submit
verb
gerund or present participle: fasting
abstain from all or some kinds of food or drink, especially as a religious observance.
synonyms: eat nothing, abstain from food, refrain from eating, go without food, go hungry, starve oneself; go on a hunger strike; crash-diet
“we must fast and pray”

Hear me out with this. Fasting doesn’t necessarily mean it’s always food involved. For example, some individuals fast from social media, arts and crafts, drinking and so much more. Things that consume your time substantially and decrease your mind spiritually and mentally can hinder you from seeing the bigger picture. Through my perspective, I ran to work and other things that kept me busy as an excuse to not do better. My mind was stuck on things all around me except my relationship with God, my marriage and myself. This final countdown was my last straw to break my consistent habits of not being consistent.

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This picture figuratively represented me struggling to cross over to the “brighter” side. Fear really took place in my life and began to run rampant. I lie to you not, each time I needed to step outside of my comfort zone, I felt each barbed wire stabbing me with the level of uncomfort I experienced.

UNTIL I got the courage to say

I refuse to allow so many things to hold me back from my blessings. Food was my comfort, anger was my best friend, pretending was my soulmate. I sought after food and gained weight (given), I balled up anger over EVERY SINGLE THING, and I figured pretending to “look” as if I had it together was my best bet.

This isn’t a New Year New You post.

This is cheers to my chains being broken. Cheers to the transition of life and mindset changes. Lastly, cheers to remembering who I am and who’s I am through Christ. It’s the Final Countdown for this shift to occur. Sunday night I will be at the starting line eagerly anticipating the gunshot to fire and I’ll be first to take off.

I hope to have been an ounce of encouragement to at least one of you reading. Always be encouraged to stay true to yourself and know that you are WORTH everything you put your mind to. Do not get discouraged if things do not take off the way you intended. I’ve learned, it’s not you who plans your life. Release the control and simply ride on. ✨

Happy Birthday

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Go shawty, it’s your birthday! Happy Birthday!

Alright y’all, it’s officially my 23rd birthday! So this post is definitely about to be short, sweet and to the point. Surprisingly I’m excited for my birthday to finally be here. Like, I am actually 23 years old. I dreaded the thought of getting older as time goes on but I might as well enjoy this life to the fullest.

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 Let me do a little reflection on this new age I’m about to get acquainted with. Alright, so boom I’m 23 which puts me two years until I’m 25. If that puts me two years to 25, then that’s middle 20’s. Now, if this is considered mid 20’s, then that’s only 5 years from being 30. LORD! This is the reason I avoid thinking about age. But in all seriousness, time literally does not wait for anyone. I try to catch the time train at each stop so I won’t miss any amazing moments in life. I am truly thankful that I’ve been blessed to see this day let alone.

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So many people I know aren’t here to even experience their next birthday but yet I have the opportunity to celebrate mine. This is an exciting time for me honestly. I’m looking forward to my “Jordan” year being the best time of my life.

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Another folk saying from my Aunt Janet: It takes 21 days to begin or break a habit.

This birthday, I’m doing things a little different. I’m reclaiming the blessings that were meant for me, time, and health. I’ll be building healthy habits and relationships with “boss” minded individuals. With a cleared mind and spirit, I have so much to offer you guys! Thank you to each person that has text, messaged, or commented “Happy Birthday” to me. I love love love seeing notifications pop up for things like this and it just fills my heart with joy! I love you guys too from the bottom of my heart.

Until next time! I’m going to Harlem Shake on off of this and have a little dance party in my own zone. See ya later!

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Happy New Year

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Happy New Year!

What a time to experience year after year with old and new people?!

Hi my loves! I believe it is fair to say long time no see. I’ve missed you all tremendously as I took a quick hiatus to gather my thoughts headed into the new year. It’s a little overwhelming for me right now simply because I have lived this far to even write this post for you all as we “read”. It’s a mixture of emotions but I thank God to see this day come to pass.

Are you all experiencing the same emotions?

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I’m going to be extremely transparent with you all as a warning.

2017 has treated me like the child that stays in the corner. No matter what I said or did, I was always put into timeout. Now, I constantly asked “why is this happening to me?” I couldn’t seem to win an ounce of goodness. But, with all that was going on, I did something terrible. I began putting myself in self destruction mode. Y’all I LOST myself. I was literally a ticking time bomb. Let me explain…

  • Weight gain
  • Low self-esteem
  • Lack of motivation
  • Workaholic (for the wrong reasons)
  • Lack of priorities
  • Stressed out
  • Lack of prayer life
  • Emotional
  • BILLS

AND THE LIST GOES ON…

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First thought, many people would respond “That’s so hard to believe.” Often times when I’m in action, you will always catch me red in the cheeks and smiling a smile that could reach my ears. But, I was harboring pain and junk…yea, that’s what we’ll call it JUNK. That’s what was inside me head to toe. I was battling an invisible fight that I seemed to allow to go unnoticed for a while. Now, for anyone that has encountered me, don’t mistaken that smile to be a mask over my emotions. The smile was genuine, the happiness was pure and the love was organic.

As you read, you may say “this doesn’t sound like a Happy New Year.” Just hang in there with me

Granted, the things I’ve listed are all normal I guess for this whole adulting thing I’m trying to understand. But, it wasn’t what I planned out for my life. Keep an eye out for how many times I make note about “my plan for my life.” Ok, so I wasn’t supposed to gain weight and have bills up to my neck. By 23 I am supposed to have had a baby, a 3,000 square foot house and debt free. I really didn’t care about timing either. My hubby would try to talk reality and sense into me but boy was I stuck in my own way. He wasn’t the only person to try to knock me upside my head either.

REALITY CHECK: God didn’t have my plan written in his plan for my life.

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Consequently, I stuck by this frame of mind for a while because I was determined to prove that it is possible to get these things in life.  I believed I deserved this, that, and the third in life without having to do the leg work. I slacked on my prayer time but found myself seeking God when situations arose. In this timeline, I became the typical Christian. I just knew my life would get by if I whispered a quick prayer saying “Lord please help me get out of this and I repent for everything I’ve done. I promise I won’t do it again,” HONEY the next day I did exactly what I just prayed about. You would think with having to say this prayer so much something would change…Nah. I was exhausted and still carried the world on my shoulders to get what I wanted.

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A wise woman in my life revealed to me that I wanted those desirable things too much. The drive I had to make my life feel in order was higher than God. I then realized that I immediately woke up thinking about how to get the house in an impossible time frame, having my life altogether by my birthday and things would hit a 360 in the nick of time.

Take into consideration the words I am saying. Please don’t confuse any of this as you can’t be blessed with the desires of your heart. Things happen in decency and in order. Your life sequence should not play out like scattered scrabble letters.

P.S. Thanks for the continuous lessons Aunt Janet

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Now, lets fast forward to now…I’m sitting here in front of a blazing fireplace with family and peace. Although I am nowhere near what I want, I realized that maybe my plan was stuck inside of a box and I didn’t leave any room for more growth. I mean, who was going to tell Jorelle what to do because I’m grown. HA! Yea right.

See that mindset I carried hindered me in some ways and helped me in other ways. The main problem was the lack of balance.

As I conclude this post, I want to say I wish you all a Happy New Year! I believe there will be some extreme blessings and changes that will happen for many. It took me a while to understand the true meaning of a lesson learned. My mind stayed crowded with anger because I simply didn’t get what I wanted. BUT, lets say this was an opportunity for me to be inspiration to you. Pick up that pen and paper and get to work. It’s people out there looking for an escape out just like you.

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2018 is about to be the best year of my life! The number 7 signifies the number of completion with 8 signifying new beginnings. I wish you all nothing but success and blessings untold. I learned one thing that stuck with me too by Che Haughton: FEAR IS EXPENSIVE. Do not allow the fear that settled in 2017 accompany you in 2018. Ask yourself if it’s really worth it to bring baggage from the past just because you want closure or you still enjoy toying with the idea. You either want it all or not at all. Stop serving two masters as we enter this new year.

Be DECISIVE. Remain POSITIVE. Be PRODUCTIVE.

#NOFEARALL2018

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Thirty-One

Thirty-One by Peyton ❤️

Good evening! It has been LONG overdue with sharing some love on some awesome people! So, that means I got a feature for y’all!

It is with much pleasure to introduce to you this beauty by the name of Peyton.

Peyton is a childhood friend of mine from Lord knows, toddlers or a little older? Lol. But, she is doing great things. She has studied Political Science/English, Master of Education and she’s an English teacher at Jolliff Day School! Girl I am amazed at how much you’ve achieved.

In addition to everything mentioned, Peyton is a Thirty-One Consultant. Let me be first to say ALL of her items are super cute!

Now, if you are looking for a quick last minute gift, I believe this post is right on time! Check out these cute bags 😍

Would you like to know how to purchase one? Yes???? Great! Because I’m going to eliminate the search and give you the deets below! 

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Peyton is an excellent consultant to have and you can even tell her I sent you! What better way to support her without the guilty “spending” conscience knowing it’s going to a great cause? There are so many options aside from buying anything too! If you’re too busy, you can even host a virtual party. Maybe you’ll get a free item or two!

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And, if you decide to make a purchase, you can share the excitement like this picture!

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Thanks for sticking with me! Make sure everything you do is intentional. There’s a blessing with your name on it! Talk to you guys soon. Much love to you all!