Mindset

What does a made up mind do for you? Do you feel successful when you’ve made up your mind? Do you feel like you are getting somewhere? Well, far too many times, we as humans do not have our minds made up and we fail. But, it’s about a mindset change.

I’ve decided to dive right into the subject while my creativity is flowing right now. So I went to bible study last night and man was Pastor Harold on fire. As I’ve told you all about the 21 day fast and challenge, we’ve continued the teachings on fasting. I took down a few notes but what really stuck out to me is how much your mind is intertwined with everything. The mind is  powerful place that people cannot tap into and only you know what you are thinking.

Mindset: A Made Up Mind

The service reall spoke to me y’all. Reason being is because I am determined to get these 21 days down pack, but I’ve been teeter tottering. I did make up my mind to do the Daniel fast, but I did not hold strictly to the requirements. Instead, I was still making the fast work for “ME.” Usually with fasting, you give up SOMETHING. I mean, I thought I gave up something until I realized that actually, I didn’t do jack. Listen though. I am doing good keeping away from the normal foods and old diet and all, but, I’m still falling prey to what I want… just at a later time.

Let’s think on this

When it comes to fasting, the focus of it is not all around you. See, “you” get put aside because you are seeking to reach something far greater right? Ok, so if you put yourself aside, do you believe you will be thinking about your next meal or when you can go back to doing what you’re fasting from? No, but only if you have your mind made up to change.

Pastor Harold said something pretty significant that I jotted down which was

“Any mind that is a double mind is unstable.”

As I was listening to the sermon, I promise I was convicted. In my previous posts, I have been giving you all tidbits about the day, challenges and accomplishments. Whoop Dee do. But, I hadn’t truly made up my mind to be truthful to my word. It’s not that I’m not doing what I said I would do, but I haven’t pushed through with this challenge WHOLE HEARTEDLY. It’s still a few things I wasn’t trying to give up. It was my stubbornness.

But, earlier on in the day, I must say it went by much better. For it to be day 3 already, I can feel a difference. After tonight’s service though, my mindset definitely will experience a greater difference. While I try to provide some transparency, I need you to understand that this is no walk in the park for me. It’s not like I’m going to have a blog post saying I did everything right and I didn’t crave this or that. I’m human. It’s normal. What I can have is a blog post saying is that I didn’t succumb to my fleshly desires.

If you feel like you would struggle with this, ask yourself the question “what is holding you back?” How tightly wired is your mindset to refuse the peace you could gain? I bring up mindset constantly because it really is a huge substance to get through this all. Think like this, If a person believes they’re broke, then they will remain broke. If a person believes they’re wealthy, then they will achieve wealth. It doesn’t have to be in the form of money. As long as you don’t limit yourself to thinking only about you and your circumstances, you won’t see much growth. You are stronger than you believe.

I’m cutting this post now. I believe it is very self explanatory. Change your mindset around and focus on things greater than yourself. Start incorporating others into your affirmations and believe that it will come to pass. When you can genuinely be happy for the blessings someone has been given, that is already a step towards a mindset change. Trust in yourself. You CAN do it.

Alright Day Two

Alright Day Two! The second day of 21 days of fasting, praying and blogging has come to a close. What in the world did I learn today? Well, today I learned that your body will tell you about yourself.

I’m going to make this post a tad bit shorter than the rest I hope. You guys, I AM TIRED! Honestly, I have no idea why I’m am so exhausted but a sista’ is worn out. Let me tell you.

First, I went to a meeting at 10:00 A.M. That was all fine and dandy. Afterwards I headed back home and I grabbed a piece of fruit. On the way home I had a good chat with my mom and really amazed myself at how my speaking has changed. See, my mom has raised me to be VERY strong with my faith in God and as a young lady. If I have something to say, I say it. Who did I get that from? Her! Lol But, I say that because even in such a short time period, I’m beginning to understand as individuals how much our actions and words determine what’s next.

Now, yesterday was my “breaking in” for the first day of this fast. (In case you missed it, read it here) It was a struggle, but worth it. Today seemed to go a little easier until I messed up. Am I saying that day two wasn’t perfect? YES, YES I AM.

Understand that it did go significantly better after I cleared my head from overthinking.

I managed to eat a nice salad with all natural ingredients followed by a potato and sautéed vegetables. There wasn’t any dairy, meats or added sugar, just all natural. To my surprise, I could barely finish it. Looks good right?

In my mind, I was thinking I could just catch up on meals I’ve missed and be alright. If I could desperately cry out “no” on this post I would. I have sooooo much work to do and learn! I tell you, I need to go back to the books to understand some things about the body. Don’t EVER try to catch up on your meals by eating extra.

Heed my warning.

So, I stopped eating the salad when I felt my body say “hey I’m full.” Afterwards, I might’ve grabbed a few nuts, a whole grain cracker or so and that was about it.

While I was prepping the salad, I jokingly mentioned to my aunt Janet that I felt like God punched me in the stomach.

My appetite really hasn’t been all of that, but I still feel full. Sounds crazy but hang tight. She mentioned gluttony to me in the past as I told you all how I went into self destruction mode. Food was the substance that kept me sane. But, as we continued on she decided to read me a chapter from her book about fasting. Low and behold, it brought up an explanation to me feeling full. It also shadowed gluttony.  I mean, it really made me realize how bad gluttony can take a negative turn in your life.

It is defined as:

  • glut·ton·y
    ˈɡlətnē/Submit
    noun
    habitual greed or excess in eating.
    synonyms: greed, greediness, overeating, gourmandism, gourmandizing, voracity, insatiability; informalpiggishness
    “the gluttony you displayed last evening was reprehensible”

Fast forward to dinner time. HUGE NO NO. My old habits started to kick in. I tried to eat something I should not have eaten.

My stomach sure did hit me and say “you tried it.”

You see, what I’ve learned is that when your body doesn’t receive the junk it’s used to being fed, it begins to detoxify itself. That is exactly what has been going on. So, you know how I said I was trying to catch up on meals? I figured it would be ok and guess what. Sorry if it’s TMI but yea, I puked like crazy. Part of me felt like I shouldn’t have done that, then the other part was like “it shouldn’t hurt.”

I don’t know if it was the prune I ate plus the ABC (Apples, beets, and carrots) juice I made or not. 🤔 It was good though! See 👇🏽

With all that has been said, I want to close this post off with a little tid bit. Trust the process and your body. I’ve conquered getting my mind over the food aspect of things, now it’s time to transition. Instead of responding when I may feel a hunger pain, I can replace that with prayer or scripture. Again, I never said the process will be easy, but if you continue to push through it will become a lifestyle change. The clarity I have with these simple changes really show me a deeper meaning behind fasting. If you are thinking about fasting or your curiosity has been struck, just start off slow. You don’t want to overwhelm yourself and keep messing up like I do. BUT it is a learning process so don’t give up. So alright day two! It’s been fun. Come back tomorrow for an even better update! Love you guys 😘

Juicer Used: Jack LaLanne’s Power Juicer

Welcome Day One

Welcome Day One!

This is the simplest title I can give this post.

I’m going to say today was my Q & A day. First off, I really really had a hard time looking past what I was eating instead of focusing on praying and reading.

As an added note, I will be referencing my prior posts because they are all linked moving forward. 

With that being said, yes I had a tremendously hard time looking past food. Why? Well, because I have wired my brain to think I can do all things perfectly if I put my mind to it. I didn’t want to miss a beat and I wanted to assure myself that everything I consumed was passable for the fast. WRONG WRONG WRONG! You see, my screws didn’t line up with the right tool.

This thought process of mine went into hyperdrive and fried my brain with my understanding of this fast. See, I had so many technicalities about what I should and shouldn’t do I missed the whole point of it. Check out my order of events today.

  • Wake up
  • Shower
  • Get dressed
  • Brush my teeth
  • Make my bed
  • Go downstairs
  • Grab my notebook and bible
  • Search for scriptures to read
  • Found scriptures
  • Write them down
  • Read them
  • Close my book and bible
  • Leave to go grocery shopping

THAT’S WHERE IT ALL BEGAN.

Whoo, welcome day one. Hear me good when I say this. I messed up. What does that mean? It means this fast didn’t go perfectly on the first day. Shocker right? Yea I surprised myself too.

See I was aiming for the bullseye without thinking of the practice it takes to land it.

As I walked down the aisle with my aunt Janet my eyes began to soar. My feet were walking in directions I didn’t need to go and my hands were grabbing things that weren’t necessary. Originally, my intentions were to snag a few more items just to get me through.

Inserts BUZZER🚫

Wrong again. Throughout being in the supermarket, I commenced with my Q & A segment. First, it began with “Why can’t you eat this if it is labeled vegan? This should be ok for the fast.” Next, I wondered why so many ingredients were on “organic” foods that I couldn’t pronounce. Then, I started thinking, is there anything permissible to eat?! After reading everything I REALLY became puzzled as to “what am I going to eat?!”

My aunt Janet had me ask myself a few obvious questions. One of those questions were “why are you so worried about the food?”

My response

That’s when everything started to become clear to me. Why was I focused on what I was eating? I definitely made the process much harder than what it could have been.

Most noteworthy, for you all to NOT follow my steps…I didn’t get my full prayer time in because I was focusing on the food! It is no understatement when I say it is hard releasing control over everything I am accustomed to. All the time I could have had to pray and read was spent on how much food I had to last me for the 21 days. Y’all, I got to do better. It was embarrassing for a second but I was learning.

I understand that you can only go one way when you are trying to reach a certain point in life.

What sense does it make to have the process go easy without some type of challenge? What purpose does it serve if you feel comfortable with the fast? I mean, how can you truly learn? People never really learn a lesson until the ugly part of life hits them. That’s when everyone’s knees fall to the ground asking for this blessing and that blessing. BUT, if you really think on it…would you have learned anything, let alone prayed to God had that ugly moment in life not happen to you? I doubt it. You aren’t the only one I’m guilty as charged.

In a layman term, get over yourself. Stop allowing what is not important to crowd your mind. We as humans become susceptible to our weaknesses because of the CONTROL we have over them. Why do you think its so easy to keep doing what you know is wrong? Whatever your weakness is, it will continue to be just that until you release the control you have over it. Once you change your mindset, and focus on the bigger picture, then will you begin to see the transition. Maybe even a little glimpse of heaven 😍

Do yourself a favor and be better than your weaknesses and downfalls. Break free from the bondage of fear and CAN’T. It’s not easy but it is worth the fight. Make up your mind, write out your plan and stick to it. Don’t try to control it but allow your eyes to be opened in order for you to be elevated. Dust yourself off and try again. You’ve got this and so do I! Be encouraged. See you tomorrow for another update. Welcome Day One!

Preparation Time

It’s preparation time…

NO MORE BURGERS FOR 21 DAYS 😭

If  you had the chance to read my Final Countdown post, then here is the finale of counting down. It’s officially preparation time for the 21 day challenge. I said I challenged myself 21 days of blogging and therefore I have to keep my word.

And in all actuality, I know this task is possible, BUT I am really going through the “motions” of emotions with the goal I’ve set for myself. With the preparation of this fast and challenge, I am being forced to relinquish all control to bring my flesh into submission. Inside, I feel like scattered puzzle pieces. If you picture this figuratively, I’m running throughout the puzzle pieces and trying to pile them wherever they can fit. I’m dreading the unknown and feel safer trying to put the “pieces” of my life back together again where “I” see fit. Now, if you read a few posts back, you will understand the quotations around I. You can read it here.

See, what I’m learning when it comes to challenging yourself is that you MUST have a mindset change. Over time, I’ve built the habit of finding reasons to remain complacent within my own comfortable shell of disfunction. If you remember my “go to” from my Final Countdown post about food, then you will understand how comfortable I got destroying myself. This is not a hyperbolic statement either. So, what exactly is it that I am preparing for?

A LIFESTYLE CHANGE

Most importantly to add with this lifestyle change is the fact that I won’t be returning to the old way of comfort. But wait! I didn’t even tell you all the exact fast I’m doing…

Well, I will be completing the Daniel’s fast. I contemplated over and over what to do, but throughout conversation I received my little confirmation. This isn’t my favorite fast to do. After the little shopping I did yesterday to finalize my preparation, I actually felt a bit of joy overcome me. Maybe it’s because I know the change that will be happening or simply what is to come.

My settings are being restored and I’m being rewired. My determination has now replaced my contemplation meaning I am seizing all opportunities. No longer will I hold myself back from being healthier, reading and studying more and simply having a clustered mind of chaos. I am determined to walk through every opened door that was meant for me. I am not talking about doors I tried to force open additionally.

6:00 A.M. my life is turning around. It’s preparation time for what I will be consuming, thinking about and priorities. Also, it’s much easier said than done if you haven’t tried it. I’m honestly very excited to see the mentality and wisdom I gain but more importantly a steady relationship with God.

If you want to know more about the Daniel Fast, you can check out this site here. It breaks down the list of foods you can and cannot eat as well.

Pray for me as I pray for you! Always remember to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he shall direct your path.” Proverbs 3:5-6

Final Countdown

Final Countdown! First, let me tell you all where my mind is with this “countdown” before I go any further…I’m legit experiencing excitement and skepticism at the same time.

Alright now. Good afternoon beautiful people! I had to get my thoughts off my chest before I greeted y’all. Next, with your permission, I’m going to reveal this countdown I’ve challenged myself with.

Final Countdown

21 Days of Blogging

You read that right. 21 complete days of blogging and I’m not going to be slacking either. You may ask what brought this on?

If your answer is YES, it is because of church. No, it’s not something forced either. My church Abundant Life Forsyth is doing a corporate fast for 21 days.

 

I’ve honestly dreaded fasts for I don’t know how long. Each time I felt I needed to fast for personal reasons or a recommendation by someone I sprinted the opposite direction. Truthfully, I never felt as if I was strong enough to complete something so meaningful. I can admit, I ran away from fasting because I wouldn’t be in control of whatever I fasted from. You know, some people love food, television, music or whatever hobby because it’s something they can control. It doesn’t even have to be a bad habit but too much of it is what creates the “bad.”

Let’s dissect this a bit

What is fasting? 

fasting×
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fast/Submit
verb
gerund or present participle: fasting
abstain from all or some kinds of food or drink, especially as a religious observance.
synonyms: eat nothing, abstain from food, refrain from eating, go without food, go hungry, starve oneself; go on a hunger strike; crash-diet
“we must fast and pray”

Hear me out with this. Fasting doesn’t necessarily mean it’s always food involved. For example, some individuals fast from social media, arts and crafts, drinking and so much more. Things that consume your time substantially and decrease your mind spiritually and mentally can hinder you from seeing the bigger picture. Through my perspective, I ran to work and other things that kept me busy as an excuse to not do better. My mind was stuck on things all around me except my relationship with God, my marriage and myself. This final countdown was my last straw to break my consistent habits of not being consistent.

Take a good look at this picture

This picture figuratively represented me struggling to cross over to the “brighter” side. Fear really took place in my life and began to run rampant. I lie to you not, each time I needed to step outside of my comfort zone, I felt each barbed wire stabbing me with the level of uncomfort I experienced.

UNTIL I got the courage to say

I refuse to allow so many things to hold me back from my blessings. Food was my comfort, anger was my best friend, pretending was my soulmate. I sought after food and gained weight (given), I balled up anger over EVERY SINGLE THING, and I figured pretending to “look” as if I had it together was my best bet.

This isn’t a New Year New You post.

This is cheers to my chains being broken. Cheers to the transition of life and mindset changes. Lastly, cheers to remembering who I am and who’s I am through Christ. It’s the Final Countdown for this shift to occur. Sunday night I will be at the starting line eagerly anticipating the gunshot to fire and I’ll be first to take off.

I hope to have been an ounce of encouragement to at least one of you reading. Always be encouraged to stay true to yourself and know that you are WORTH everything you put your mind to. Do not get discouraged if things do not take off the way you intended. I’ve learned, it’s not you who plans your life. Release the control and simply ride on. ✨