Follow Your Dreams: If it’s the Last Thing You Do!

If you know anything about me, then you know I’m not your average, gungho traditional type of girl. I’m the girl that bends the rules while following them. The one that follows her own dreams while pushing you to follow your dreams. And to be very honest, I’m quite proud I don’t remain trapped in a four-wall institutionalized mindset.

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Be Free, Be Happy, Be a Dreamer

Oftentimes when I would share my dreams, thoughts and goals, I would get feedback about how unorthodox it was. You know, I’m supposed to go get my Doctorate and work in my field. Then, hope that I am blessed to make six figures and live the American dream.

(Of course I wrote that with a touch of hyperbole, but it’s mainly true.)

But that was not in my heart.

Now, I’m not saying I’ll never go back to school and further my education and knowledge. But when I do, I’m going to be intentional with my decision and allow it to align with my God given talents. If I’m going to go into debt, I need to ensure I have a ROI to cash in.

My focus isn’t just on wealth anymore. It’s shifted to a generational mindset

Although I am approaching my 25th in less than a month, I have come to learn how trained the mind becomes at my age.

It is SO easy to internalize the exterior voices that say no to every dream and project their thoughts into your life. That is until you begin living for their words and not God’s word.

You then unknowingly begin to take the traits of what was spoken over you. Then SUDDENLY. You hit a point in your life when you realize “this is not what you wanted to do.”

After reality hits, you find yourself stuck in the same ole routine with no way out. Why? Because, you put your dreams so far back into an abyss, you started walking through the valley on your own strength.

I’m sure you know the song, “ain’t no mountain high enough, ain’t no valley low enough.” But if you think about it, it rings true ONLY if you stay the course.

You see, there is something that is within you that needs to be birthed. The problem is, the birthing that should be taking place lies within the vision of your dreams. If you don’t begin cancelling out the words spoken over you, you’ll hardly see anything come of what God has instilled in you.

The most common response I hear people say is “my family doesn’t believe in my dreams.” Baby, let me tell you something. We grow up through generations. Each generation has it’s own mechanism of surviving and success. Each one learned differently and were taught differently. But we are not in the business of revisiting the past tradition.

We reference and apply the tradition value taught where its needed but not in every single part of our life.

There IS an uncanny amount of wisdom in the older generation, BUT also a large amount of complacency within that tradition too.

It was taught to go to school, work until a certain age, retire at that age, live happily and that’s it.

That’s a long route to take.

For one you’re expendable working for someone else. Two, there is no guarantee life won’t throw a curveballs. Three, there is fear of uncertainty projected on the newer generation if there is no proven method to show success will come of it.

Now, please don’t get too technical and think I’m saying all tradition is bad. What I’m simply stating is if we remain in a traditional mindset, we only have part of the blueprint. It takes you, the determined one, to follow your dreams and finish it off.

There are MANY pros to learning the traditional ways too.

Without the generations before us, we probably wouldn’t have an ounce of knowledhe about true hard work ethic. But, like I stated earlier in the text, we take those values an apply it where its needed.

I’m a dreamer and I will always be one. My spirit roams free because I’m outside of the norm. I believe there is something inside of you that wants to follow your dreams. You just need that extra push.

So here is what I want you to do. (I’m included)

Write out whatever it is you seek to accomplish

It can be a boutique, a web designing business, invention or something else. Write it down

Next, make it plain what you need, down to the bottom dollar

Prioritize what is important to obtain your dream. Is it reasonable or unreasonable?

Then, begin to educate yourself either YouTube, school, etc around your craft

Then, for the fun of it….write out a check to yourself for whayever amount you hope to accomplish when you take your step.

Afterwards, pray on it. Pray intentionally. Listen closely and execute when the time is right. I’m trying to see generational families, estates, multiple streams birth out of this.

You can and will follow your dreams as long as I am here! I hope this touched you. I believe in you, but now it’s time for the work. Let’s get it!

Chin Up, It’s Going to Get Better

Hey ya’ll. It’s been in my heart to send another reminder of encouragement to you all. Every now and then, we could all use a “chin up” in our life and catch a glimpse of hope.

I promise not to hold you long with my words, but I pray that you take it in your heart.

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”
2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV

After reading this verse, I had to take the time to truly understand what it meant to me. God’s power is made perfect in weakness?

How? Seriously how?

But, as I read it, I started to be reminded that each time I felt defeated and willing to go back to the easier route, Gods grace covered me. In my moments of weakness, I saw God operate to his full capability.

Now, I could have very well interpreted that completely opposite of you. You could’ve gotten some deeper, logical understanding and that is fine. The point here is, in the time you feel weak, God will always be by your side. A way will ALWAYS be made. And the lack you may be experiencing shall pass.

Time and time again, we all have moments where it just seems like we can’t move to the next step. Like you’re stuck in front of a door that refuses to open. (Your time of weakness). So, take a moment and think about a time now or in the past you were experiencing that moment.

Think real hard now

Now, let me ask you this. Although it seems like you’re stuck, did you go without during that time?

Did you skip a beat with your necessities? Or better yet, did your bills still get paid for? If you answered yes, then I want to let you know this. Yes, you may feel stuck, unmovable and disappointed, BUT there was a lesson in it. God’s grace STILL covered you.

My next question is, did you experience an unexpected moment? Something that you just needed to happen. (I.e. a connection, networked with someone important, partnership?) I can give you a list of things now that I couldn’t tell you then about all the amazing opportunities that presented itself to me in my lowest time, but do you know why that is?

Well, in our low times, we can’t audibly hear that “chin up” voice. Sometimes we can’t see the purpose in our pain..and sometimes we can’t even realize what is going on in front of us because we’re so distracted.

The point I am getting at jumps back to the scripture. In weakness, God’s power is made perfect. I have so many “unexpected” blessings that occurred in my weakness, it was unreal. I never went without. There was never a missed meal. Bills got paid. Oh, and I STILL blogged and took cute pictures in spite of what was in front of me.

The second part of this “chin up” encouragement is the last part of the scripture.

“Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”

I want to challenge you to sit, think about your time or times of weakness. Write it down..ponder on every detail that occured. Ask yourself some of the questions I asked you. Then dissect the scripture for your own understanding.

Now that I am in a spot in my life where I can maturely comprehend a message, I joyfully boast about my weaknesses because God is ALWAYS showing up in that time. I recognize the power I have that I, once, did not realize resided within me.

Take hold of your power. Take back what is yours. Do NOT feel discouraged. Do NOT feel defeated. But please let that voice constantly remind you to “chin up” and press forward. You are worth moving forward and I’m rooting you on!

I love you and God loves you too!

Special Feature: Read All About It

Good morning everyone! As you see on the title, you already know I have a special feature to highlight. This individual is near and dear to me simply because they push me. They help me go further and remind me why I started this blog in the first place.

Jayla White Focus Photography

So, without further ado, let me introduce to you Jayla White.

My girl is a Jane of ALL trades and I’m proud to have her apart of my life. Whenever I post my content or get asked “omg who did your pictures?” Jayla is ALWAYS the one behind the masterpiece. Of course I’ve had other photographers capture me, but this girl here isn’t just my photographer. She is my friend and spiritual sister.

If I’m talking about business, she has my back

While she is a Jane of all trades, photography is not her only talent. She is truly multi faceted. This girl plays the sax and y’all she can BLOW. She takes AMAZING pictures and serves at church. Oh, and she keeps her brand on 1000% all the time. When you see her out and about, you will always see her repping her brand, Focus Photography.

With all that I could write about her, check out her bio from her website

“Jayla White is a young innovative artist who specializes in portraits and sports. Jayla also focuses on event, family, weddings and much much more.

Allowing Jayla to focus on your moment you receive style, creativity, and art. Creativity flourishes throughout all that she does.

An Atlanta based Photographer that takes great pride in focusing in on the true personality of the people that she photograph. The meaning of focus is the quality of producing a clear definition.  Here at Focus Photography we produce quality, prestigious work that focus on more than what the natural eye can see. It was in 2018 when Jayla discovered her passion for Photography. Passion is something that can only come from within and it’s one of the most important things that she bring to every photoshoot.  Jayla always loved the camera when she was a young girl, but as she grew she worked towards expanding her craft into a business. What’s not to love; she gets to photograph and document the happiest day in a person’s life! Not only is this something she enjoy, but its also something that she is created for.

Proverbs 4:25   – “Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee”

Meet Jayla White

Focus Photographer

Jayla White is a Published Photographer . She has been published as a sports photographer with Jackson Progress Argus. Jayla White has also been published in Voyage ATL.”

(Don’t say I didn’t drop the goods to help you and your brand out!)

Check out her interview here!

If you can’t understand why she is worthy of being my special feature, then I need you to reread her bio again.

Being that I know she would kill me if I get all emotional, I’ll just shed light on the surface of her.

To know Jayla is to know what a true friend is about. Knowing her has given me that “fire” that I needed to keep going. We can laugh all day cracking jokes day in and day out and we can talk business all day planning out the future.

Her work ethic is not to be messed with either. Every session I’ve had with her resulted in more than fair turnaround time for what she provides and exceptional pricing.

Her talent is untouchable and the anointing over her business is very visible. I always tell her when I’m at the top, I’m taking her with me. That’s what happens when God places the Right people in your life.

So, if you’ve enjoyed the unveiling of my special feature, please do me the pleasure of booking her. Book her for all of your photography needs!

You can follow her on social media too!

Thanks for reading up on my special feature! Come back Tuesday for another blog post!!

BTB Winter Retreat 2019

Good morning my loves! The beginning of this year has been a transformation to say the least, and you will never guess how much has changed in such a short time! Although my initial change transpired began before the “BTB Winter Retreat 2019”, I’m going to give you a quick backstory about everything.

Last year, I was the go to advocate for excuses, motivation-LESS, and truly carrying the weight of what should have been dead in my life a long time ago. Fast forward to now, I have had a refreshing in my spirit, my mind, and body.

I began this year fasting for 21 days which i COMPLETED! Yes, I said that magical word. COMPLETED. Afterwards, I had a real reality observation and decided to act on things that would ground me better spiritually. Then, we approach February 1, 2019.

I could not have prepared myself for what would happen starting that day.

It was a pleasure to be picked as the photographer and assistant to Tenisha Bibbs for her “Behind the Beauti Winter Retreat” that weekend. My God, I tell you, what I am about to share with you all, should move you to be curious about what this movement is all about.

On the first day, we of course had a hilarious, yet fun ride there with all the locals. I guess we were driving too slow for them. (Even though we were already like 10 mph over the speed limit.) The closer we got to the house, the more lost we became. I mean, we went in a circle so many times, but that’s the beauty of a road trip right? Right.

Oh my goodness, I have to tell y’all, Ms. Tenisha had me rolling when she saw a deep cliff on the passenger side. She dropped her phone, her eyes bugged out, and I promise she almost stuttered. We laughed so hard about that tears were falling. So that’s my warning if you decide to be adventurous and go up in the mountains.

After we finally circled around for a bit and found the home, it was GO time. We all buckled down for those who were present, and flipped that house. We had a deadline to get the decorations done, tables up, food set up and more. Thankfully, we did it and it felt good when it was done.

Later that night, we commenced our night by getting to know each other, pleasuring our taste buds with an amazing dinner by Chef V, and a small fireside chat with Morale Ocain. I was so adamant about sleeping in the room with others because didn’t want to be that bear in the room. When I get a good sleep, I’m out like a light. Nonetheless, I climbed my happy hips on the top bunk and enjoyed my roomies. They were perfect.

Next day, we were blessed with a powerful sunrise prayer and mediation. The power of the Holy Spirit fell so heavily, I could barely take pictures. I felt such a weight of relief, healing, and peace like the hand of God stretched forth and touched each one of us. Once prayer was over, Mrs. Jean Turner led the ladies in a morning stretch and Glory Walk. We then followed with Breakfast, Coffee, and Conversation and that’s when we really hit the meat of the day. We also enjoyed another catetered meal from Chef V for lunch!

We spent the entire day with speakers such as April Reason, Kristole Pierce, Faye Shaw, Jean Turner, and Yvette Gavin.

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Faye Shaw
Kristole Pierce

These speakers were on fire! I also wanted to share the reason why I chose these pictures. When you look at them, they all tell a story. I belive that is where the beauty comes in, because these are raw, uncut, and down to the core. These are speakers who didn’t sugarcoat anything and they shared what needed to shared.

Starting from Mrs. Yvette Gavin to April Reason, the anointing just flowed down. April set the platform and made the room an altar. When I tell you, she gathered us altogether and then prayed for Ms. Tenisha! My God did she pray a hedge of protection over her. Afterwards, I felt an unction to get my healing. Why? Because, the atmosphere was conducive for a shift to take place. Before I knew it, I was on the floor praising God for what I didn’t know was being held onto was finally released off of my spirit.


After we gathered ourselves from what I call chuch (insert southern accent) we had a few activities to enjoy from jewelry making with Ayana Glaze to an image styling session later that night with Marcella Thomas. Some of the other ladies enjoyed Massages by Mac while others rested up and enjoyed the company of one another.

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I truly believe we slept very well that night with a packed day. My heart is so full from meeting the ladies to the conclusion of the event. It really gave me a different perspective on how to allow my purpose to be manifested from healing.

If you are interested in attending the next retreat, I have a surprise for you. Registration is open to purchase tickets early, but we are also having a “Behind the Beauti Experience Conference” coming up July 19th and 20th at the Cobb Galleria in Atlanta, GA. Stay tuned for more to come! Learn about your true BEAUTI!

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A few moments of recognition go out to:

YURLP Productions for photography and videography

Our sponsor Fit, Foxy 50 & BEYOND

Enjoy the snippets below from the “BTB Winter Retreat 2019” below and grab those tickets!

(Pictures are property of Let’s Get Relle and TB Media Group for the Behind the Beauti brand. Permission must be granted before republication)

Ready To Give Up

Forget the typical greeting…yall I’m ready to give up! Seriously…I’m over it.

Now, hear me out real good. I have my reasons why I’m starting this segment out so heavy.

In all actuality, I’m not ready to give up nor will I ever. I needed to get your attention because most of the time, when life smacks you left and right, you’re ready to throw in the towel.

Honey, do me a favor and pick your head up.

It took me a long time, even with me being a young lady, to overcome A LOT in a short period of time. But now, let me also be transparent with you..

But seriously, this is a heavy moment of transparency…

You know how easy it is to get lost in thought when you’re so low? Man…I tell you that can be such a dangerous place. I didn’t want to live forever at a certain point in life. Actually, many people don’t know my story and every detail. All I can say is, God intervened when I hit my lowest point in life. I was sitting in my room, scrolling on social media, watching all the people I used to look up look up to living their life and question why mine is so messed up.

This was typed on 8/17/18.

WOW is all I can say. It’s amazing how God sets you up to have reminders throughout the day to help you remember why you must keep moving forward.

I honestly didn’t realize this post would have been so encouraging but, because I was in such a low point in life, I didn’t feel as if I had the right to encourage anyone else. Fortunately for myself, I know the authority I have and trust me, it’s about time my voice is consistently heard.

I’m actually going to end this off because I made a very specific action towards how I would like my 2019 to shift. I pray you all will be encouraged on this day and remember what God instilled in you and the calling on your life. Stay on the lookout for more updates! they’re headed your way.



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