Mindset

What does a made up mind do for you? Do you feel successful when you’ve made up your mind? Do you feel like you are getting somewhere? Well, far too many times, we as humans do not have our minds made up and we fail. But, it’s about a mindset change.

I’ve decided to dive right into the subject while my creativity is flowing right now. So I went to bible study last night and man was Pastor Harold on fire. As I’ve told you all about the 21 day fast and challenge, we’ve continued the teachings on fasting. I took down a few notes but what really stuck out to me is how much your mind is intertwined with everything. The mind is  powerful place that people cannot tap into and only you know what you are thinking.

Mindset: A Made Up Mind

The service reall spoke to me y’all. Reason being is because I am determined to get these 21 days down pack, but I’ve been teeter tottering. I did make up my mind to do the Daniel fast, but I did not hold strictly to the requirements. Instead, I was still making the fast work for “ME.” Usually with fasting, you give up SOMETHING. I mean, I thought I gave up something until I realized that actually, I didn’t do jack. Listen though. I am doing good keeping away from the normal foods and old diet and all, but, I’m still falling prey to what I want… just at a later time.

Let’s think on this

When it comes to fasting, the focus of it is not all around you. See, “you” get put aside because you are seeking to reach something far greater right? Ok, so if you put yourself aside, do you believe you will be thinking about your next meal or when you can go back to doing what you’re fasting from? No, but only if you have your mind made up to change.

Pastor Harold said something pretty significant that I jotted down which was

“Any mind that is a double mind is unstable.”

As I was listening to the sermon, I promise I was convicted. In my previous posts, I have been giving you all tidbits about the day, challenges and accomplishments. Whoop Dee do. But, I hadn’t truly made up my mind to be truthful to my word. It’s not that I’m not doing what I said I would do, but I haven’t pushed through with this challenge WHOLE HEARTEDLY. It’s still a few things I wasn’t trying to give up. It was my stubbornness.

But, earlier on in the day, I must say it went by much better. For it to be day 3 already, I can feel a difference. After tonight’s service though, my mindset definitely will experience a greater difference. While I try to provide some transparency, I need you to understand that this is no walk in the park for me. It’s not like I’m going to have a blog post saying I did everything right and I didn’t crave this or that. I’m human. It’s normal. What I can have is a blog post saying is that I didn’t succumb to my fleshly desires.

If you feel like you would struggle with this, ask yourself the question “what is holding you back?” How tightly wired is your mindset to refuse the peace you could gain? I bring up mindset constantly because it really is a huge substance to get through this all. Think like this, If a person believes they’re broke, then they will remain broke. If a person believes they’re wealthy, then they will achieve wealth. It doesn’t have to be in the form of money. As long as you don’t limit yourself to thinking only about you and your circumstances, you won’t see much growth. You are stronger than you believe.

I’m cutting this post now. I believe it is very self explanatory. Change your mindset around and focus on things greater than yourself. Start incorporating others into your affirmations and believe that it will come to pass. When you can genuinely be happy for the blessings someone has been given, that is already a step towards a mindset change. Trust in yourself. You CAN do it.

Final Countdown

Final Countdown! First, let me tell you all where my mind is with this “countdown” before I go any further…I’m legit experiencing excitement and skepticism at the same time.

Alright now. Good afternoon beautiful people! I had to get my thoughts off my chest before I greeted y’all. Next, with your permission, I’m going to reveal this countdown I’ve challenged myself with.

Final Countdown

21 Days of Blogging

You read that right. 21 complete days of blogging and I’m not going to be slacking either. You may ask what brought this on?

If your answer is YES, it is because of church. No, it’s not something forced either. My church Abundant Life Forsyth is doing a corporate fast for 21 days.

 

I’ve honestly dreaded fasts for I don’t know how long. Each time I felt I needed to fast for personal reasons or a recommendation by someone I sprinted the opposite direction. Truthfully, I never felt as if I was strong enough to complete something so meaningful. I can admit, I ran away from fasting because I wouldn’t be in control of whatever I fasted from. You know, some people love food, television, music or whatever hobby because it’s something they can control. It doesn’t even have to be a bad habit but too much of it is what creates the “bad.”

Let’s dissect this a bit

What is fasting? 

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fast/Submit
verb
gerund or present participle: fasting
abstain from all or some kinds of food or drink, especially as a religious observance.
synonyms: eat nothing, abstain from food, refrain from eating, go without food, go hungry, starve oneself; go on a hunger strike; crash-diet
“we must fast and pray”

Hear me out with this. Fasting doesn’t necessarily mean it’s always food involved. For example, some individuals fast from social media, arts and crafts, drinking and so much more. Things that consume your time substantially and decrease your mind spiritually and mentally can hinder you from seeing the bigger picture. Through my perspective, I ran to work and other things that kept me busy as an excuse to not do better. My mind was stuck on things all around me except my relationship with God, my marriage and myself. This final countdown was my last straw to break my consistent habits of not being consistent.

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This picture figuratively represented me struggling to cross over to the “brighter” side. Fear really took place in my life and began to run rampant. I lie to you not, each time I needed to step outside of my comfort zone, I felt each barbed wire stabbing me with the level of uncomfort I experienced.

UNTIL I got the courage to say

I refuse to allow so many things to hold me back from my blessings. Food was my comfort, anger was my best friend, pretending was my soulmate. I sought after food and gained weight (given), I balled up anger over EVERY SINGLE THING, and I figured pretending to “look” as if I had it together was my best bet.

This isn’t a New Year New You post.

This is cheers to my chains being broken. Cheers to the transition of life and mindset changes. Lastly, cheers to remembering who I am and who’s I am through Christ. It’s the Final Countdown for this shift to occur. Sunday night I will be at the starting line eagerly anticipating the gunshot to fire and I’ll be first to take off.

I hope to have been an ounce of encouragement to at least one of you reading. Always be encouraged to stay true to yourself and know that you are WORTH everything you put your mind to. Do not get discouraged if things do not take off the way you intended. I’ve learned, it’s not you who plans your life. Release the control and simply ride on. ✨

Happy Birthday

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Go shawty, it’s your birthday! Happy Birthday!

Alright y’all, it’s officially my 23rd birthday! So this post is definitely about to be short, sweet and to the point. Surprisingly I’m excited for my birthday to finally be here. Like, I am actually 23 years old. I dreaded the thought of getting older as time goes on but I might as well enjoy this life to the fullest.

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 Let me do a little reflection on this new age I’m about to get acquainted with. Alright, so boom I’m 23 which puts me two years until I’m 25. If that puts me two years to 25, then that’s middle 20’s. Now, if this is considered mid 20’s, then that’s only 5 years from being 30. LORD! This is the reason I avoid thinking about age. But in all seriousness, time literally does not wait for anyone. I try to catch the time train at each stop so I won’t miss any amazing moments in life. I am truly thankful that I’ve been blessed to see this day let alone.

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So many people I know aren’t here to even experience their next birthday but yet I have the opportunity to celebrate mine. This is an exciting time for me honestly. I’m looking forward to my “Jordan” year being the best time of my life.

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Another folk saying from my Aunt Janet: It takes 21 days to begin or break a habit.

This birthday, I’m doing things a little different. I’m reclaiming the blessings that were meant for me, time, and health. I’ll be building healthy habits and relationships with “boss” minded individuals. With a cleared mind and spirit, I have so much to offer you guys! Thank you to each person that has text, messaged, or commented “Happy Birthday” to me. I love love love seeing notifications pop up for things like this and it just fills my heart with joy! I love you guys too from the bottom of my heart.

Until next time! I’m going to Harlem Shake on off of this and have a little dance party in my own zone. See ya later!

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Happy New Year

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Happy New Year!

What a time to experience year after year with old and new people?!

Hi my loves! I believe it is fair to say long time no see. I’ve missed you all tremendously as I took a quick hiatus to gather my thoughts headed into the new year. It’s a little overwhelming for me right now simply because I have lived this far to even write this post for you all as we “read”. It’s a mixture of emotions but I thank God to see this day come to pass.

Are you all experiencing the same emotions?

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I’m going to be extremely transparent with you all as a warning.

2017 has treated me like the child that stays in the corner. No matter what I said or did, I was always put into timeout. Now, I constantly asked “why is this happening to me?” I couldn’t seem to win an ounce of goodness. But, with all that was going on, I did something terrible. I began putting myself in self destruction mode. Y’all I LOST myself. I was literally a ticking time bomb. Let me explain…

  • Weight gain
  • Low self-esteem
  • Lack of motivation
  • Workaholic (for the wrong reasons)
  • Lack of priorities
  • Stressed out
  • Lack of prayer life
  • Emotional
  • BILLS

AND THE LIST GOES ON…

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First thought, many people would respond “That’s so hard to believe.” Often times when I’m in action, you will always catch me red in the cheeks and smiling a smile that could reach my ears. But, I was harboring pain and junk…yea, that’s what we’ll call it JUNK. That’s what was inside me head to toe. I was battling an invisible fight that I seemed to allow to go unnoticed for a while. Now, for anyone that has encountered me, don’t mistaken that smile to be a mask over my emotions. The smile was genuine, the happiness was pure and the love was organic.

As you read, you may say “this doesn’t sound like a Happy New Year.” Just hang in there with me

Granted, the things I’ve listed are all normal I guess for this whole adulting thing I’m trying to understand. But, it wasn’t what I planned out for my life. Keep an eye out for how many times I make note about “my plan for my life.” Ok, so I wasn’t supposed to gain weight and have bills up to my neck. By 23 I am supposed to have had a baby, a 3,000 square foot house and debt free. I really didn’t care about timing either. My hubby would try to talk reality and sense into me but boy was I stuck in my own way. He wasn’t the only person to try to knock me upside my head either.

REALITY CHECK: God didn’t have my plan written in his plan for my life.

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Consequently, I stuck by this frame of mind for a while because I was determined to prove that it is possible to get these things in life.  I believed I deserved this, that, and the third in life without having to do the leg work. I slacked on my prayer time but found myself seeking God when situations arose. In this timeline, I became the typical Christian. I just knew my life would get by if I whispered a quick prayer saying “Lord please help me get out of this and I repent for everything I’ve done. I promise I won’t do it again,” HONEY the next day I did exactly what I just prayed about. You would think with having to say this prayer so much something would change…Nah. I was exhausted and still carried the world on my shoulders to get what I wanted.

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A wise woman in my life revealed to me that I wanted those desirable things too much. The drive I had to make my life feel in order was higher than God. I then realized that I immediately woke up thinking about how to get the house in an impossible time frame, having my life altogether by my birthday and things would hit a 360 in the nick of time.

Take into consideration the words I am saying. Please don’t confuse any of this as you can’t be blessed with the desires of your heart. Things happen in decency and in order. Your life sequence should not play out like scattered scrabble letters.

P.S. Thanks for the continuous lessons Aunt Janet

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Now, lets fast forward to now…I’m sitting here in front of a blazing fireplace with family and peace. Although I am nowhere near what I want, I realized that maybe my plan was stuck inside of a box and I didn’t leave any room for more growth. I mean, who was going to tell Jorelle what to do because I’m grown. HA! Yea right.

See that mindset I carried hindered me in some ways and helped me in other ways. The main problem was the lack of balance.

As I conclude this post, I want to say I wish you all a Happy New Year! I believe there will be some extreme blessings and changes that will happen for many. It took me a while to understand the true meaning of a lesson learned. My mind stayed crowded with anger because I simply didn’t get what I wanted. BUT, lets say this was an opportunity for me to be inspiration to you. Pick up that pen and paper and get to work. It’s people out there looking for an escape out just like you.

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2018 is about to be the best year of my life! The number 7 signifies the number of completion with 8 signifying new beginnings. I wish you all nothing but success and blessings untold. I learned one thing that stuck with me too by Che Haughton: FEAR IS EXPENSIVE. Do not allow the fear that settled in 2017 accompany you in 2018. Ask yourself if it’s really worth it to bring baggage from the past just because you want closure or you still enjoy toying with the idea. You either want it all or not at all. Stop serving two masters as we enter this new year.

Be DECISIVE. Remain POSITIVE. Be PRODUCTIVE.

#NOFEARALL2018

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Bold Favor Magazine

Bold Favor Magazine! Nothing more to say.

Good evening everyone! I hope all has been well. Tonight, I bring to you the wonder of the Bold Favor Magazine Awards.

Y’all, this award show was so classy and elegant. Everyone in the building came dressed to impress honey. There was a range of entertainment starting with a comedic segment, fashion show styled by Norahs Khan, spoken word and a quick work out session! Can you say Wow.

Important note: I must give immediate honors to Lynita Mitchell-Blackwell for this event. Everyone, this lady is a powerhouse. Along with the help of every individual with Bold Favor, I must applaud the mountains this platform is conquering.

I’m going to be completely honest for a second too. This blog post is long overdue because I couldn’t get my words together. Secondly, I snapped 500 photos of this event! If you know how I am with my pictures, please understand I didn’t take this post lightly. I had the OPPORTUNITY to capture a lot of amazing moments. Also, shoutout to Toyin Fadina for bringing me along under Two Cameras and a Brush.

Now, a little about Lynita Mitchell-Blackwell…

First, she is a leader. Ever since I met Lynita, I have witnessed a true role model with poise, sophistication and most importantly Christ as the center of her life. Secondly, she has been recognized on Forbes along with many other platforms. Lynita is also CEO of Bold Favor Media Group! To add on top of it all, she’s a CPA and a Publisher Attorney. (AMAZING)

I wish I could write a complete guide about her but the list will continue to go on and on. If you ever see this name across your feed or in conversation, make sure you pay attention. I can see now this won’t be the last time she will be featured in anything.

Huge congratulations to each recipient for being recognized for a Bold Award too. Just to name a few…

and so many more!

I can vouch that each individual who received an award have A LOT to offer in this era. Whether I’ve known them before this awards show or met them that day of, I had a token of advice to take home with me.

If you want to know about Bold Favor Media Group, go check them out! I can’t wait to see what 2018 holds for this company.

As always, be great in all that you do! Do not waste time by holding yourself back from yourself. You can be your own worst enemy and miss out on opportunities. The chance I had with Bold Favor to me, was a once in a lifetime moment. I didn’t have to be blessed and offered an opportunity to capture these intimate moments. So, next year, if you want to find out more about Bold Favor then you ought to purchase your ticket.