Follow Your Dreams: If it’s the Last Thing You Do!

If you know anything about me, then you know I’m not your average, gungho traditional type of girl. I’m the girl that bends the rules while following them. The one that follows her own dreams while pushing you to follow your dreams. And to be very honest, I’m quite proud I don’t remain trapped in a four-wall institutionalized mindset.

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Be Free, Be Happy, Be a Dreamer

Oftentimes when I would share my dreams, thoughts and goals, I would get feedback about how unorthodox it was. You know, I’m supposed to go get my Doctorate and work in my field. Then, hope that I am blessed to make six figures and live the American dream.

(Of course I wrote that with a touch of hyperbole, but it’s mainly true.)

But that was not in my heart.

Now, I’m not saying I’ll never go back to school and further my education and knowledge. But when I do, I’m going to be intentional with my decision and allow it to align with my God given talents. If I’m going to go into debt, I need to ensure I have a ROI to cash in.

My focus isn’t just on wealth anymore. It’s shifted to a generational mindset

Although I am approaching my 25th in less than a month, I have come to learn how trained the mind becomes at my age.

It is SO easy to internalize the exterior voices that say no to every dream and project their thoughts into your life. That is until you begin living for their words and not God’s word.

You then unknowingly begin to take the traits of what was spoken over you. Then SUDDENLY. You hit a point in your life when you realize “this is not what you wanted to do.”

After reality hits, you find yourself stuck in the same ole routine with no way out. Why? Because, you put your dreams so far back into an abyss, you started walking through the valley on your own strength.

I’m sure you know the song, “ain’t no mountain high enough, ain’t no valley low enough.” But if you think about it, it rings true ONLY if you stay the course.

You see, there is something that is within you that needs to be birthed. The problem is, the birthing that should be taking place lies within the vision of your dreams. If you don’t begin cancelling out the words spoken over you, you’ll hardly see anything come of what God has instilled in you.

The most common response I hear people say is “my family doesn’t believe in my dreams.” Baby, let me tell you something. We grow up through generations. Each generation has it’s own mechanism of surviving and success. Each one learned differently and were taught differently. But we are not in the business of revisiting the past tradition.

We reference and apply the tradition value taught where its needed but not in every single part of our life.

There IS an uncanny amount of wisdom in the older generation, BUT also a large amount of complacency within that tradition too.

It was taught to go to school, work until a certain age, retire at that age, live happily and that’s it.

That’s a long route to take.

For one you’re expendable working for someone else. Two, there is no guarantee life won’t throw a curveballs. Three, there is fear of uncertainty projected on the newer generation if there is no proven method to show success will come of it.

Now, please don’t get too technical and think I’m saying all tradition is bad. What I’m simply stating is if we remain in a traditional mindset, we only have part of the blueprint. It takes you, the determined one, to follow your dreams and finish it off.

There are MANY pros to learning the traditional ways too.

Without the generations before us, we probably wouldn’t have an ounce of knowledhe about true hard work ethic. But, like I stated earlier in the text, we take those values an apply it where its needed.

I’m a dreamer and I will always be one. My spirit roams free because I’m outside of the norm. I believe there is something inside of you that wants to follow your dreams. You just need that extra push.

So here is what I want you to do. (I’m included)

Write out whatever it is you seek to accomplish

It can be a boutique, a web designing business, invention or something else. Write it down

Next, make it plain what you need, down to the bottom dollar

Prioritize what is important to obtain your dream. Is it reasonable or unreasonable?

Then, begin to educate yourself either YouTube, school, etc around your craft

Then, for the fun of it….write out a check to yourself for whayever amount you hope to accomplish when you take your step.

Afterwards, pray on it. Pray intentionally. Listen closely and execute when the time is right. I’m trying to see generational families, estates, multiple streams birth out of this.

You can and will follow your dreams as long as I am here! I hope this touched you. I believe in you, but now it’s time for the work. Let’s get it!

Chin Up, It’s Going to Get Better

Hey ya’ll. It’s been in my heart to send another reminder of encouragement to you all. Every now and then, we could all use a “chin up” in our life and catch a glimpse of hope.

I promise not to hold you long with my words, but I pray that you take it in your heart.

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”
2 Corinthians 12:9 NIV

After reading this verse, I had to take the time to truly understand what it meant to me. God’s power is made perfect in weakness?

How? Seriously how?

But, as I read it, I started to be reminded that each time I felt defeated and willing to go back to the easier route, Gods grace covered me. In my moments of weakness, I saw God operate to his full capability.

Now, I could have very well interpreted that completely opposite of you. You could’ve gotten some deeper, logical understanding and that is fine. The point here is, in the time you feel weak, God will always be by your side. A way will ALWAYS be made. And the lack you may be experiencing shall pass.

Time and time again, we all have moments where it just seems like we can’t move to the next step. Like you’re stuck in front of a door that refuses to open. (Your time of weakness). So, take a moment and think about a time now or in the past you were experiencing that moment.

Think real hard now

Now, let me ask you this. Although it seems like you’re stuck, did you go without during that time?

Did you skip a beat with your necessities? Or better yet, did your bills still get paid for? If you answered yes, then I want to let you know this. Yes, you may feel stuck, unmovable and disappointed, BUT there was a lesson in it. God’s grace STILL covered you.

My next question is, did you experience an unexpected moment? Something that you just needed to happen. (I.e. a connection, networked with someone important, partnership?) I can give you a list of things now that I couldn’t tell you then about all the amazing opportunities that presented itself to me in my lowest time, but do you know why that is?

Well, in our low times, we can’t audibly hear that “chin up” voice. Sometimes we can’t see the purpose in our pain..and sometimes we can’t even realize what is going on in front of us because we’re so distracted.

The point I am getting at jumps back to the scripture. In weakness, God’s power is made perfect. I have so many “unexpected” blessings that occurred in my weakness, it was unreal. I never went without. There was never a missed meal. Bills got paid. Oh, and I STILL blogged and took cute pictures in spite of what was in front of me.

The second part of this “chin up” encouragement is the last part of the scripture.

“Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”

I want to challenge you to sit, think about your time or times of weakness. Write it down..ponder on every detail that occured. Ask yourself some of the questions I asked you. Then dissect the scripture for your own understanding.

Now that I am in a spot in my life where I can maturely comprehend a message, I joyfully boast about my weaknesses because God is ALWAYS showing up in that time. I recognize the power I have that I, once, did not realize resided within me.

Take hold of your power. Take back what is yours. Do NOT feel discouraged. Do NOT feel defeated. But please let that voice constantly remind you to “chin up” and press forward. You are worth moving forward and I’m rooting you on!

I love you and God loves you too!

Mid Day Inspiration

Hello my loves! Today’s post is a bit unorthodox, BUT it’s needed. I’m here to sprinkle a little Mid Day Inspiration to give you that extra push to keep going.

As you read, I want you to hear me good when I say, some days giving up is the EASIEST thing you can do. If you’re anything like me…(overthinker, creative, free spirit) then you replay lines over and over in your head. Lines like “I really want to give up.” “It would be so much easier if I just let it all go.” “What’s the point?”

But you know what, it’s not easier.

Do you want to know why it isn’t easier? Because, all the time, effort and tears invested in something you sought after to accomplish is not worth letting go.

You know, I always kept this negative subconscious thought process that if I distance myself and drop everything, cold turkey, maybe, just maybe things would get easier. Now, truthfully, I did all of those behaviors. I gave up. Let my blog go for MONTHS. Lost all confidence and I didn’t feel the need to keep going.

I had a quick reminder though that if I gave up, I gave up on all the connections made, all the networking, all the time studying to become a better blogger each and every day.

Deep down, I don’t want you to give up. I want to help you avoid the disappointment of trying to test out giving up so it doesn’t knock you down. Take this as a blueprint.

You can look at me as your virtual Accountability partner because I want to give you another reason to stay in the game. So here is your reminder.

Do NOT give up!

You are WORTHY!

You CANNOT give up!

If I have to give you a personal one on one call I will because, far too many individuals, millenials especially deal with the fight of giving up.

If you ever need a good read, download the bible app here. There are devotionals that can seriously speak directly to you and your situation.

I’m quick to say “I ain’t no saint” but I’m definitely on a steady path of greatness walking in my calling. I want to see you WIN. Hope you all enjoyed this Mid Day Inspiration!

I LOVE YOU!

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Charming Charlie Blue Plaid Tent Dress

Hello all! Today I’m back with another cute fashion feature on the blog! I’m highlighting this cute Blue Plaid Tent Dress from Charming Charlie. Oh and you know I learned something new! I learned the official terminology for different dresses. (I’m excited if you can’t tell)

So, when I picked this dress, I’m not going to lie. I was NERVOUS. It was short, my hams were going to be out, and it wasn’t my “norm.” But, against my own judgement, I stepped out and this was my FAVORITE look out of them all.

What I will say is when purchasing dresses in this style, it’s best to go up a size. Now, that also depends on the type of fabric and this fabric specifically didn’t have any give in it.

I even paired this with the cutest BCBG crossbody bag. Like yall, this outfit really shocked me at how it all came together.

Shoutout to my coworker for the shoes from ShoeDazzle that helped me finalize this look.

All in all, the dress is cute. Comfort level is pretty decent. I could probably use a size up since it was a straight fit, but I definitely recommend this type of dress. Since I am hippy, the dress did rise up a bit when I would sit down, but it’s not horrible at all.

Not long ago, I put a post up on my IG to challenge everyone to find out what their body type is and I received a variety of comments. We are all different shapes and I highly recommend learning your body shape.

It will help SIGNIFICANTLY when it comes to styling according to your body and bring out your flattering assets.

As always, thanks for sticking with me! I hope you loved this Blue Plaid Tent Dress and get inspired to style one of your own!

Be encouraged, be awesome, and be YOU!

LOVE YOU GUYS 💕

Esprlia Plus Size Floral Blouse

Good morning guys and gals! Today is another fashion post and what better day to do it than on a Friday?! Fashion Friday! I have a super cute floral blouse to share with you all. Oh, and let me say, I wasn’t sure I could pull this look off without dressing it up too much honestly. BUT from much feedback, it seems as if I did ok.

So, this blouse was SUPER comfortable. I’m not a huge blouse wearer because I either get too hot or its just too darn itchy. However, when I put it on, it laid just right and I could actually move freely.

The more in depth I get with fashion, the more I search for comfort

I decided to pull from the pink color scheme in the flowers to add a pop with rose gold accented jewelry to tie it in all together. Oh! And the shoes are from Payless – Christian Siriano. (RIP Payless 😥)

This outfit is perfect for a casual Sunday, especially if you go out to dinner after church. It’s just dressy enough to be seen, but casual enough to be comfortable. How great is that?!

If you’re ever looking for amazing, cute yet affordable pieces, go shop on Esprlia and let them know I sent you!

As always, I love to shower a little encouragement over you guys so I pray that whatever your hearts desire is come to pass.

I believe that you are on your journey of discovering your true calling and talent.

And you are more than a conqueror.

It’s not easy going day by day, but with a little reminder, we can all grow a little more.

Pictures are of course from Focus Photography! My girl Jayla is always ready to shoot..so go ahead and book her for your holiday cards before it’s too late.

Now enough chatting, enjoy these few snapshots in this super cute floral blouse!